My first love was the first girl I had sex with. I pinged her on reunion.com or some other site like that. But she sent me email giving me the bullet points on her life. I don't know about anyone else but I'll never forget that first love. I'm SO glad she emailed me because I hate the idea that someone I cared deeply for was *somewhere* in this world, but I had no idea where.

so ... I found home videos of me and my ex (from years ago) and I got pretty turned on by it. Part of me felt a little weird about it, but ... the sex that night was about as hot as it got between us (which wasn't often)

when I'm looking at porn there are 2 things that make me hit the >NEXT< button almost immediately.
one is fake boobs.

the other is a clear ribcage. If she looks like she's been starving herself, it turns my stomach.

that's just me

well...I dont really know for sure.  I think what I am falls in the category of bi-curious.  some sexual fantasies and sexual dreams I had as a teen involved men, I had a mad crush on a friend in college and really considered approaching about it, and have had fantasies recently that involved men, and tried to fulfill the fantasies but couldn't close the deal.
Here's the thing - i was raised in a very religious environment, and it's taken me this long just to consider it with out seeing it as deviant thing.  

I always thought I was just really horny and sexual until it occurred to me that there might other people like me. 

Being in a committed LTR complicates things.  I'm not going to cheat on her, and don't see myself leaving her for a man. I DO
 know myself enough to say it just won't happen. Convincing her of this is another thing.

My take on cheating and affairs is that as much as the deception is toxic for the relationship, at its source the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem.  That problem would has to do with trust, respect intimacy and openness.  The affairs and cheating usually happen after those breakdown.  And regardless of whether your single, polyamorous or somewhere in between, it's all about honesty.